Stop Asking “WHY?”

Life’s Miracles Come in Strange Packages –– Stop Squashing Them FLAT with this Seemingly-Small Word.

confusedMost Unstoppable Entrepreneurs have a lousy habit:

They innocently misinterpreting the road-bumps along the entrepreneurial highway — labeling things as “BAD” (when they’re actually not. )

Here’s 2 great examples . . .

1. I was robbed. (Literally.)

While I was away at a business conference 2 weeks ago, someone decided to pry open the door to my storage unit and take a “free” shopping spree . . .

2. I lost a contest I was really excited about.

I entered a contest at last month’s “Be the Change” conference – a contest that I’d been over-the-moon excited about! But I flat-out lost. No honorable mention, no glory. No glitz.

. . . Isn’t that the BEST????????????

No, no… I”m not trying to be funny. I’m serious as taxes.

And the REASON they turned out so perfectly is because I didn’t ask: “WHY?” (I’ll explain in more detail below…)

So this week I want to teach you how to stop asking “WHY”  — so you can let life’s miracles come to YOUR business in new, surprising, or even shocking new ways.

Let me explain . . .

“Why?” is the question on every human mind — a simple (seemingly) harmless, little word that’s hovered around for eons.

You’ll hear it randomly throughout your day via internal mental-chatter like:

• Why did that client say “NO”?

• Why am I stuck in this dead-end job?

• Why did that person look at me that way?

• Why do I struggle with money so much?

• Why did my body get sick?

…and the list goes on and on and on and on!

Sure, there are times when the word “WHY” can appear to be helpful. But most times, it’s of 0 use.

So WHY is this 3-letter word so lousy?

Because it assumes that your small human perspective is accurate.

But reality is: You can’t ever know SQUAT. (No matter how much your brain cons you into thinking otherwise).

This all came to me crystal-clearly while doing some automatic-writing just a few short weeks ago — as I inquired about all types of things like my biz, health, income and love.

After asking countless questions (all starting with “Why” by the way) the the surprisingly-simple answer I received was:

“STOP ASKING WHY.”

It finally hit me like a ton of bricks: “WHY” is one of the most useless words ever…

It’s how my Brain tries desperately to be in “control” — attempting to understand the complexities of the Universe, dictate life’s details, direct life’s timing.  (And I don’t need to be psychic to know that your’s does this, too.)

But nothing could be farther from productive — or more impossible — As if any mere mortal could ever come close to understanding the awe-inspiring complexity that we call life!!!

“WHY?” is your brain’s goofy attempt at playing God — which I personally find to be a terribly stressful job for a hairy, well-meaning sack-o-cells like you and I.

The SMARTER thing to ask is:

“What can I do from THIS point — in THIS moment— to become a better match with what I DO want? “

Nothing much else is required (or matters).

Because whether you like it or not, there’s a FAR bigger choreography happening in the world beyond just your wee-brain’s perspective. And there are a whole lot of other human’s involved in this wonderfully-woven tapestry we call life.

When you try to comprehend it’s brilliance from a human vantage-point, it’s like attempting to understand the workings of the Universe by looking down a kid’s sippy-straw… The view is way, way too narrow to provide anything useful, and is a big ol’ fat waste o’ time, too (if you ask me).

Some say: “But you’ve got to understand the past in order to change the future!” But that’s just a giant load of crap…

Looking backwards does nothing but aim you right at the heart of your problems — a dreamy way to magnetize a whole slew of garbage, pain and suffering into your life.

Here’s the truth of the matter: While your brain is BUILT to prove that it’s right about everything — it is, in fact, always wrong (and usually blames, shames and makes you “bad” all along the way).

For example:

1.MY STORAGE UNIT WAS BROKEN INTO.

COMMON REACTION: “This F-ing SUCKS!!!!! – My stuff is my stuff, and people should keep their mitts to themselves….”

REALITY:

  1. They only took a few things I’d been meaning to get rid of for eons… Now that’s clutter-clearing at it’s BEST!
  2. I ended up moving my stuff to a new unit – giving me the chance to reorganize my space like I’d been wanting to do for months.
  3. During this re-arrange, I found a few important objects that had been on my mind bigtime the week before.

2. I LOST THE CONTEST.

COMMON REACTION: “But my video was AWESOME!!!! It’s obvious it should have won – I’m so P.O.’d!!!”

*** If you didn’t watch it yet, just click here: http://youtu.be/gId1V6K-LAE 

REALITY:

  1. I learned how to edit video for the 1st time, built my own green-screen studio, had a TON of creative fun— while having a pretty freakin’ funny video to show for it. 
  2. I ended up meeting the contest winner and realized that this person needed the prize 10,000x more than I did. 
  3. I realized that the prize wasn’t what I thought it was — and would have taken me down a very different path (that I don’t think I even want).

I have a TON of stories even better than these – but these help make my point.

Sure, I know it’s not always easy to find those silver linings underneath what looks like big, black, ominous clouds. But it’s always there — if you’re brave enough to look for it.

BECAUSE:

— Blessings are often overlooked.

— Gems are so often dismissed.

— Miracles are too often flushed down life’s toilet.

Life’s “Woe-is-Me” moments are actually gifts wrapped up in “BUMMER” wrapping paper — if you never pull off the bow and dig inside, you miss out entirely on the opportunity sitting inside.

NO ONE has ever made a mistake. NO ONE has ever failed.  (Because failure and mistakes don’t actually exist). They are nothing but the small, squashed, skewed perspectives of humans who’ve lost site of their own infinite unstoppability.

So this week, when you hit a road-bump along life’s long highway, pull over and write a brand new story – one with a delicious, exciting outcome that is designed with your highest good in mind.

Grab pen and paper (or just close your eyes) and say: “If my life depended on writing a happy ending to this challenging situation, how would that story go?”

Then see what new insights are unleashed…

Share any of YOUR life’s moments that looked like a bummer at the beginning – but turned into a blessing down the road: Because we all need the reminders!

 

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